Let's be real about talking behind each other's backs in a group of friends. We all do it. It's not malicious 98% of the time. It's normally out of concern and/or simply to relay/share information.
This was discussed on the recent episode of Real Housewives of New York. During a discussion about talking about Jules, Carole said it was out of concern. So, I started thinking: if it's out of concern, and you would say it to her face, is it okay?
This was discussed on the recent episode of Real Housewives of New York. During a discussion about talking about Jules, Carole said it was out of concern. So, I started thinking: if it's out of concern, and you would say it to her face, is it okay?
I am blessed to have several groups of friends. I've got my work sisters, my dance girls, my college besties, and of course, I have best friends from high school and other areas of life, but for this post, let's talk about the groups. When you are a group, you get together on your own some, but mostly you come together as a unit.
Do you not text one another and say, "Have you talked to (...Suzy) recently?"
That's a fishing line. What are you going to respond?
I would probably say, "No. Why?"
and this friend would relay information, such as "She is coming in town this weekend/getting a divorce/blah blah."
To me, this is a normal thing. This isn't malicious at all.
What do you think? Is this type of conversation classified as talking behind someone's back?
Also, aren't we too old for that crap? If
you have an opinion, share it with me. You're my friend. It's not like you're being rude or judgemental.
I'm fairly certain my friends talk about me... And it doesn't bother me! I know whatever they're saying is true and if I need to know, they'll tell me.
This is not earth-shattering stuff, but the episode did make me think.
Until next time...
Do you not text one another and say, "Have you talked to (...Suzy) recently?"
That's a fishing line. What are you going to respond?
I would probably say, "No. Why?"
and this friend would relay information, such as "She is coming in town this weekend/getting a divorce/blah blah."
To me, this is a normal thing. This isn't malicious at all.
What do you think? Is this type of conversation classified as talking behind someone's back?
Also, aren't we too old for that crap? If
you have an opinion, share it with me. You're my friend. It's not like you're being rude or judgemental.
I'm fairly certain my friends talk about me... And it doesn't bother me! I know whatever they're saying is true and if I need to know, they'll tell me.
This is not earth-shattering stuff, but the episode did make me think.
Until next time...